Sex education begins at birth. Then the children will not be afraid to talk with their parents on various topics, including sharing "bad" secrets. Why this is important, you will learn by reading about 15 facts about sexual behavior and parenting. At the end of the bonus - a selection of recommended literature on the topic.
head of the publication for parents Promum.com.ua
Do you remember your first sex?
Of course, remember. So do I. But no less explicitly than sex itself, I remember the words of my mother when I shared with her. She said something like “I can like it or not. But know that dad and I are on your side. And you can always come for help. ”
Now I can imagine how difficult it is. Rather, I can not even imagine that my children will once have sex.
Yesterday, a lecture on sexual education of children was held at the Ulina’s school. Or parents.Lecturer -. I recommend all parents to listen at least once. Very cool, understandable and useful.
I share my discoveries, in some moments - revelations. And book advice from Julia.
- About a hundred per 1,000 sexual contacts among adolescents in Ukraine end in pregnancy. In Sweden - 4.
- Most (read all) children aged 6-10 have seen or watched porn
- Sex education does not begin at age 5 or 7, but from birth. Exactly when we pull the child’s hands from the genitals or completely ignore them, we make a person feel shame. He does not understand why, but he already learns that "this is bad."
- Permanent masturbation under pornography leads to erectile dysfunction in young people without sexual experience and the objectification of partners in both sexes. Girls imagine that a guy should have a huge penis, and boys dream of girls with huge breasts, slender waists and perfect skin. Partners from the life after that are not particularly exciting.
- Talking about sex with children is necessary when children ask. Tell honestly. Without fiction. The wording “penis vagina” is OK even for first-graders. About the fact that someone ate sunflower seeds - do not.Children have false ideas about sex.
- There are “panty rules”. Google it. It describes in detail how to talk with your child about sexual safety.
- Genitals should be called by their names. And not pies and faucets. Because a) a child should be able to explain what hurts / worries b) should be able to tell if someone illegally touches.
- Adults do not ask for help. If an adult can not save the kitten, fix something or buy something wrong here.
- There are good and bad secrets. If the child is ill from the secret, they need to be urgently shared with their parents.
- Talking about the development of the body, menstruation, breasts and all that is necessary with both girls and boys.
- From the age of 13, the child should have free access to condoms. The teenagers themselves will most likely not buy quality products, if they buy at all. It is necessary to show where the child should take if that. Both boys and girls.
- Condom can not be worn in the back pocket of jeans. In general, you need to read the instructions.
- Children are afraid to talk with their parents. Because a) they are afraid of the reaction b) do not believe that parents will be able to help, and most importantly - because parents don’t talk about these topics with children and children simply don’t know how to share
- If children ask if you have sex, answer honestly. But without details.Do not walk naked in front of children of the opposite sex after their three years. Respect their right to intimacy. Do not touch the genitals without permission. So we let the children understand that someone else can do this.
- Accept and support children in any situation. There is simply no other option. Does not exist.
Books that will help to talk with yourself and children:
- José Morpha "The Stars I Took"
- "My divisiveness"
- “Not in cabbage and not stork”
- "Let's talk about the relationship"
- Dee Snyder's “Survival Course for Teens”
For adults (and children from 10-11 class)
- Debra Hafner "From First Dates to Adult Life"
- Alberto Pellay “Too early.