We talk a lot about how to find out the bad guys and how to stay away from them. But this is not the most dangerous men. You need to beware of too good guys.
What is dangerous about them? Just like too good women, too good guys go all out to not hurt your feelings. They try to avoid conflict at all costs to stay sweet. They do not show their real feelings, because they are afraid that you will not like it.
And the danger of a relationship with a too good guy is that you never know what he really feels.You think that he is sincere with you, but still there is a feeling that something is wrong. He talks about the future, but only what you want to hear, he wants a wedding and children. And since you are dating, this suggests that he wants it with you. But is it?
You just feel that something is wrong, and you cannot understand what it is. You begin to doubt everything: in your feelings, and in your relationship.
Complicating it all is this: too good a guy really cares about you, he likes being with you, but he won't do anything to hurt you -he never admits that he has fallen out of love with you!
He will be there until he meets someone better. You are not the one he sees in his future, but he is afraid to tell you that.He does not want to lose you as a person, as a friend.He does not want you to think that he is a bad guy.It is easy and good enough with you to be together until he meets his One.
How to distinguish such a good guy? There are 5 warning signs:
Too good guys can end up spending a lot of your precious time.His incomprehensible behavior does not allow you to quietly break with him, because, after all, he treats you well, and he clearly likes you.
Let's face it: sometimes you choose the easy way.You may think that it is better to meet someone than to be alone. You can calm yourself down by thinking that all of a sudden his feelings for you will change.
But then you become the same as him - you simply settle down as you like.
Real relationships become deeper and stronger with time. If this does not happen, you will have to become the “bad guy” yourself and break up with him.