Not every love needs to be let go

"You will survive this ..." This is a cliché that brings problems. Losing the one you love is changing your life forever. You can't just go through this, because this is the person you loved. The pain passes, new people appear, but the gap never closes. And how is this possible? This is a hole in the heart in the shape of you, under which no one else fits. And why? ”- Janette Winterson.

When we are confronted with difficult situations in life, there are some standard tips that we get, regardless of the circumstances. “Once you remember it and smile,” “You just have to let it go and move on” and “Wait and see - that’s definitely for the best.” And I recently read this quote by Janette Winterson and realized that I can not let go.
What if all these tips are just the opposite of what we really need to hear? What if you can never let go of it, whatever it is, and you will feel crazy, thinking that forgetting and moving on is your only option?

Maybe we are not always destined to let go.Maybe this is normal - to grieve forever because of some loss and never let go until the end, but simply continue to live until you find someone who makes you smile again.

Every time I experience someone's death or loss, when my heart is broken, I was told that one day everything will be fine. I think you are the same. But most of the losses I did not survive.

I don’t think that the human soul is really capable of completely “letting go”, even if we force ourselves to believe that we did it.

Maybe it's okay to look at your plate with cereal every morning and remember my late younger brother, whom I fed in the morning.

Maybe this is normal - to hear the roar of a jeep engine on the street and remember my first love, who stopped by for me on his Land Rover.

Maybe it’s okay to remember all the mistakes I made, people I hurt and the words I would like to take back.

Letting them go would be an insult to everything they taught me, what they taught the people who went through with me.

Who said you can't keep your old love with you while you are searching for a new love? Who said,that you have to let go of some kind of friendship, romance, deceased loved one or animal, to let a new person into your life, who still does not fill those voids, but will create new memorable places in your heart?

No, you don't have to let it go.You can hold on to everything that you went through, while continuing to receive new life experiences.

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