Passionate and emotional "conciliatory sex" - perhaps the only pleasant bonus from the quarrel. But if it happens before you solve your problem, then this is not very good. Conciliatory sex should be after you have come to some solution to the controversial issue, to show that despite the quarrel you love each other. But there are many nuances.
Here are just 5 signs that your conciliatory sex does not have its healing properties:
1. You are still angry / offended by your spouse.Angry sex is not intimate sex, it does not bring people together. Usually the one whose feelings are hurt simply does not see a way out and thinks that sex will solve the problem or offense. But it does not work. If you do not discuss the problem, but go straight to sex, then a huge number of unspoken feelings begin to accumulate.
2. You use sex to avoid talking.Of course, depending on the problem issue, it can be awkward and uncomfortable to discuss it. But if you use sex as a way to build relationships, you create a false sense of intimacy that leaves a feeling of sadness, distance and loneliness as soon as sex ends. Sex you will be associated only with anger and quarrels.
3Conciliatory sex has different meanings for you and your partner.Maybe your man thinks that it means that he is forgiven, or that you start with a clean slate, so you need to say if it is not. You must equally correctly understand the meaning of your sex. And in general, it is not fitting to manipulate sex in a healthy relationship.
4. You only have conciliatory sex.I mean you have sex only when quarrels arise. And from whatever side you look, this is the wrong trend.
5. You have sex after a fight to keep a man. This is a common method in which one of the partners thinks that a quarrel can force the other to leave. But if it helps, not for long, if the other person has really already decided to leave.