Recently I was on a date with a guy named Ed. Ed was cute. Ed was successful. Ed drove me by car and paid for dinner. Ed told me compliments. Ed unexpectedly leaned toward me to show a falling star. Ed even kissed me.
But I did not like him.
“I don’t know why, but I didn’t like something in it,” I later told my friend.
She started asking standard questions to figure this out.
“Did you have fun with him?” How did he treat the waiter? Did he do something unexpected? He put on his socks under sandals? "
“Yes, yes, yes, and no,” and I again fell into a stupor. I could not find a logical reason not to go on a second date, but something did not let me.
Intuition told me that it was wrong. And so it was more than once. Usually I did not listen to her and continued to meet with the guy, only to understand in a few months that my inner voice was right after all.
But this time it could save my time, save his time and allow both of us to meet someone who we really would like.But because of the fear of loneliness and the thought that I would not meet anyone better, I again persuaded myself into relationships that I didn’t even want.
And now what? Now I'm a little older and a little smarter. Focus on “a little”. I know that I have no reason to continue a relationship with him and make myself feel something that no one needs. Therefore, I allowed the absence of chemistry to take over, and the relationship dissolved by itself.
Your first instinct is almost always the right one. Trust your intuition. If you are bored, uncomfortable, scary or weird for an inexplicable reason, stop dating this person.Your inner voice can save you not just from stupid, but really bad relationships.
And if you are worried about not giving people a chance, remind yourself: what is destined will always find a way to come true.
And it's better to be in peace and security than to regret.